Thursday, November 13, 2025

For My Next Trick

We are 13 days into the month and us residents just this afternoon had the Actvity Calendar for this month posted to our doors.

I guess it really doesn't matter inasmuch as there are no activities listed, LOL.

Except, "Thanksgiving Social and Tenant Council Meeting with Management, Tuesday, November 18, 12:00 pm - 1:30 pm".

I'm not expecting much from another management meeting or a "Thanksgiving social" but, if the Starbucks strike is over, I'll grab a cup, head down to the Community Room, just to see what Kesha and Assistant Manager are up to.

Hopefully, I can manage to listen, take notes on the meeting portion, keep my thoughts about management to myself, because voicing my frustrations, at previous meetings, has been a waste of energy.

HOWEVER, if there is any mention of our paying for lightbulbs, garbage disposal, toilet, that will be my opening to tell them I've learned it's illegal for management to charge us for those items — simple wear and tear; and ask what have they been doing with the money collected from that illegal practice.

Now that work on that never ending project came to an end, for my next trick Twin 1 has tasked me with designing a cover for this bathroom accessory ……


I haven’t a clue where to begin but, while I’m waiting for an idea to pop into my head, I thought I’d start with purchasing fabric.

After getting my BP checked yesterday (121/58), I drove over to the homophobic, racists, antisemitic Knit for Jesus craft store (don’t judge me for giving them my business. They’re the only option since Michael’s and Joann’s went out of business).

I picked up a bolt of Kente Cloth, cause I know Twin 1, with her afrocentric self, would like it.


Then saw a different print …… somewhat similar, but a little more muted that I thought she might like.



Not knowing which she’d like best, I took both bolts up to the little strait-laced grandma looking lady manning the yardage station.

She oohed and aahed over the Kente Cloth fabric, said she likes color and had in fact told her daughter she was going to make for herself a top and pants out of that specific colorful print.

Sensing she didn’t know what she saw as a "colorful print" actually was, I said, "It’s Kente Cloth".

Seeming not impressed, she said "I just like all the colors".

"Wearing pants and a top is a lot of color, and I don’t see you wearing that much color", said I.

She was a tiny little lady, and that much color would have swallowed her up. Her little body didn't exude the power to carry the print off.

She laughed said her daughter told her the same thing, that it was a lot of color, and now hearing it from me as well, maybe she’ll just make a top.

Thinking it might not actually be safe for a basic white strait-laced grandma type walking around in Kente Cloth, I added "Kente Cloth is pretty ethnic. They call it cultural appropriation now days".

We left it at that, as another customer approached, oohed and aahed over the Kente Cloth.

Later that night, I got to thinking about that conversation, wondered if I’d spoken incorrectly.

So, I asked Google …… "can white people wear kente cloth?"

There wasn’t an exact ye or ney. It was more or less, do it at your own risk, because inasmuch as the cloth symbolizes Black Excellence, to see a white person wearing is "conflicting". That you’re likely to get a lot of side eye because some do see it as cultural appropriation.

The internet also reminded me of the hew and cry that was when "with the introduction of new federal police reform legislation, Democratic Congressional leaders came together in Emancipation Hall in the U.S. Capitol to kneel together in support of the fight for racial justice. In addition to the symbolic gestures, the leaders, including Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi and Minority Leader Chuck Schumer, wore kente stoles …… In doing so, they meant to honor Black lives. Instead, they appropriated African culture".

They’d meant well, but caused quite a stir.

I imagine if that strait-laced granny follows through with either a top or pants or both, her circle of friends might think it cute, even some in the general public might think it cute/cool; but for me, I’m big on respecting the various cultures.

Like when I was training at the Thai culture Pain Cave. When told it would be deemed disrespectful to walk across the floor in shoes, I’d take shoes off in an area provided at the door, walk to the back training area in socks, slip athletic shoes back on AND repeat the process leaving — take off shoes in back room, walk to the front in socks, put shoes back on in area provided.

Once, Trainer said he’d ask the guys if an exception could be made for me, but I requested he not do so because "I believe in respecting the culture".

Later today, I messaged Twin 1 photos of the two prints; she chose the second one, the not Kente Cloth one.

Go figure.

The Kente won't go to waste. It will eventually come in handy for something I make in the future …… not pants and a top, though I myself probably could carry it off.

21 comments:

  1. I have had to hold my nose and enter the realm also. I do make sure to go down the aisle with wooden letters and spell messages like FTRUMP and 8647 . And I always use the restroom to add to their water bill. We do what we can.

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    1. 🤣 What a great idea! I'll look for cameras next time and, if I don't see any, follow suit.

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  2. What a horror to have to enter that shop. In their ignorance, however, they had some beautiful fabrics.

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    1. Unfortunately, they have a lot of nice items. I limit myself to only that which I absolutely need that can't be purchased elsewhere.

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  3. The Kente cloth is beautiful! There was a beautiful, stately Black woman at my last school (one of the counselors) who looked amazing in it. Little old white grandma will look like a fool in it, though. Bless her heart.

    I, too, had to go to the evil Store That Shall Remain Nameless the other day. I always feel like an asshole when I resort to going there. I LOVE Miss Merry's idea and may make a special trip just to stroll down the wooden letters aisle LMAO.

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    1. That's two of us going to follow suit with Miss Merry. I don't know when I'll be forced to make another trip but, when I do, I'll look for blocks to rearrange, then take a pic for the blog 🤣.

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  4. Is the store really called "Knit for Jesus"? Or is that your nickname for it?

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    1. LOL! The store's real name is Hobby Lobby. The nickname "Knit for Jesus" came from a commenter. Before that, I was calling it "That racist, homophobic, antisemitic store". Shopping there is frowned upon because of the organization's strong moral, Christian stance while being racist, homophobic, antisemitic but, unfortunately, they are the only game in town.

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  5. I didn't know that fabric was called Kente Cloth... I learn something new in blogworld every day, LOL! Is it only used for clothing?

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    1. No, not just for clothing. I did a Black Panter cross-stitch piece, turned it into a throw pillow by using the piece on the front, Kente Cloth on the back. I also have a Kente Cloth hair wrap, used some in a cover I made for my sewing machine and one of my medical device covers is Kente. I'm sure there are other uses I'm not aware of.

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  6. Oh dear. I'm not Hawaiian but I wear Hawaii print tops. Spreading the knowledge of the culture happens for the greater good vs worrying about appropriation. I'm more scared of people in white shirts with long red ties.
    You could use your cloth for one of the coverings for your alarm button necklace. Peace; we need peace. Linda in Kansas

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    1. I don't think Hawaiian print clothing carries the same meaning as Kente Cloth, but it's subjective. I actually did already make my first covering in Kente, the others are faux leather and denim.

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  7. We have a bathroom accessory very much like that. They make a lot of noise when they get knocked over.

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    1. Once I think of a cover, it might fall less noisy with a fabric barrier.

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  8. I'm glad you found out it's illegal to charge you for those items.

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    1. They still haven't asked me about owing $15 for the lightbulb. If they ever do, I'll ask for a paper bill, so I can prove they're charging illegally.

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  9. What makes the first pattern Kente Cloth but not the second?

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    1. Good question, but all I know is the first is classic, represents Black Excellence, Cultural Pride, the other is an African print, which is the category all the other Afrocentric prints fall under.

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  10. Shirley, Congrats on your blood pressure! A number to be proud of. I've always thought Kente cloth beautiful but never knew much about it. Thank you for sharing this information. I am now enlightened.
    Just an aside about cultural appropriation, when I was married, my ex did plain clothes security and got himself a number of dashiki shirts "because they covered his gun". That white guy looked strange.

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    1. Dashiki shirts are more or less considered hippy wear, Bob Marley style. Don't think he'd have gotten side-eyed. Except, if he's handsome/cute and wearing Dashiki, he's likely to have attracted a lot of female attention. Did he ever confess to you that the ladies liked it?

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