Monday, August 4, 2025

Gift Horse

I heard through the grapevine that, even though Activity Director quit last week, tomorrow’s Pizza Tuesday is still a thing because a new Activity Director has been hired.

That was quick, which makes me think Activity Director played right into her mean boss’s hands by quitting. Mean Boss probably had someone in mind she wanted in the position — a friend or acquaintance, as insecure people in management positions almost always push current staff out, build a staff around themselves that is loyal only to them, as a way of protecting their incompetence from being outed.

I may have to do a walk-through tomorrow just to get a glimpse of the new hire.

Other than that, no longer having access to the Activity Calendar, I’ve no idea what’s scheduled for the seniors this month.

Yesterday, Sunday, was laundry day. So, while in the Laundry Room, I checked the community board and saw my latest work — the flyers that annoyed me into bringing out my Anne Marie cursing side, had been published.


To avoid confusing the seniors that had already received copies of the first flyer, the Baker posted the old and the new side-by-side to make certain it was understood there’d been a change.

Good idea. No one else needs their brains to be as scrambled as mine had been in completing that simple project, and I’ll be flabbergasted if the Usual Suspects actually get up/out to play bingo 10:15 in the morning.

I myself may have to get up/out, just to peek in, see if they do.

I was looped into a text message thread yesterday, where members of the High Table are on a hunt for birthdays to celebrate — naming residents they were planning a cake party for, asking members to provide birthdays of residents that might have been missed, so they too could be celebrated.

It used to be that birthdays were celebrated by month — one cake would be brought out during the snack break at bingo, those in attendance would be asked to stand if their birthday fell within that month, the attendees would "sing" happy birthday.

Looking at the photos recently sent for me to post to the resident’s facebook page, I noticed one cake per month has morphed into elaborate individual store bought/store decorated birthday cakes for each and wondered how the group could afford it.

I’ve since learned, "Donations", but who is doing all this donating?

So, anyway, if they’d looped me into the conversation as a way of getting my name added to the birthday list, they are out of luck, as I don’t care to have my birthday celebrated around here — I think it’s embarrassing, don’t get how the seniors enjoy being made the center of attention, having their birthday put on blast in that manner, and it all feels so phoned in …… not much feeling, especially the "singing".

For instance ……


Not only does this "singing" sound more like a death knoll, phoning it in, no feeling to it at all, it seems some don’t even know birthday boy's name, LOL.

They just want cake so, no thanks. I’ve no problem in spilling my age, but my date of birth is a state secret.

Around 6 o’clock Friday night, there was a rapid knock knock knock knock on the door.

No need to ask, "who is it?". Only one person knocks like that.

With the Talker waiting at the bottom of the stairs, Little Knock Knock ran up to drop off a gift from her Aunt H — Talker’s sister that I sat with at the fateful July 4th BBQ, where we had that High Table drama.


It's nice to be thought of, but I can’t help but look this gift horse in the mouth and wonder why?

Aunt H and I only met that one time, so receiving a gift from her is a little puzzling.

The earrings are not actually my style, but I’ll of course wear them to the next patriotic themed event …… whenever that is, to make her feel the gift is appreciated should our paths cross again.

When it occurred to me that I was looking a gift horse in the mouth, I wondered where did that phrase came from?

Mr. Google says, "The saying ‘Don't look a gift horse in the mouth’ means you shouldn't be critical or ungrateful when receiving a gift or favor, even if it's not exactly what you wanted. It emphasizes the importance of appreciating the gesture and the giver's thoughtfulness, rather than focusing on the gift's perceived value or flaws".

"The idiom originates from a time when horses were commonly used and their age and health were often determined by examining their teeth. To inspect the teeth of a gift horse would be considered rude and unappreciative, implying that you are more concerned with the horse's worth than the kindness of the giver. Essentially, it's equivalent to saying ‘beggars can't be choosers’".

24 comments:

  1. Thank you. I never knew why we were looking in the mouths of horses either!
    It does sound like something is up with the new activity director. But I know you will get to the bottom of it!

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  2. Those earrings are nice, but look like they'd be way too heavy for me.

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    1. Too heavy for me as well. I wear thin lightweight gold hoops, but I think I can manage these for a few hours if and when I have to.

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  3. I think a momthly "mass birthday celebration" is much better than singling out inidiviuals.

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    1. I do think so too with the mass celebration. They're now doing way too unnecessary much.

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  4. Boy there never seems to be a dull moment there, I 'll say that.

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    1. What can I say other than old people, always something.

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  5. Good to know where that saying came from. I would have never guessed but makes perfect sense once you know. That date change business would have driven me crazy. They are lucky you are still talking to them.

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    1. Not still involving myself with them all that much lately, just a drive by here and there.

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  6. I’ll be very curious to hear about the new activity director. Such a creative and enthusiastic (ahem) position thereabouts! Maybe Aunt H was sincerely grateful to you? It’s possible! The individual birthday thing is silly and that song was so excruciatingly painful. Birthday Boy looked incredibly enthused.

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    1. After this morning's plot twist, I'm not sure I'll make it down to the Community Room for a walk thru this morning, to check on the new hire. Talker tells me Aunt H gifted me the earrings because "She really liked you ... loves you". I don't know what I did at the BBQ to elicit gratitude or such liking. As for birthday boy, he's like that all the time. Sits away from everyone and just kinda looks like a bump on a log. When I've tried to open him up, engage in conversation, he answers yes/no. He's the fool that walked into one of our bingo games, sat down, disrespected us by tuning into his sports program open audio, causing me to go over and yell at him. He's now one of the Usual Suspects and I've named him Lurch, because he walks like a zombie, is stone faced, reminding me of Lurch from the Addams family.

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    2. It’s a cross between a soap opera and a sitcom!

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  7. Oh if anyone had sung Happy Birthday to me like that I would have run screaming from the room.
    Off-key doesn't begin to describe but I guess you take the emotion and make it work!

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  8. I love little "word and phase histories" like that.

    I'm not fond of having Happy Birthday sung to me either. Unfortunately, we are apt to hear it 2 or 3 times unless, you do like I do and stay in my apartment on my birthday. Even that doesn't always work.

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    1. Stay in your apartment or don't let them know your birth date.

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  9. Your gift horse comment made me think of a recent interaction with an elderly neighbor. Terry had checked on her, late one evening, because her garage door was still open, which is unlike her.

    Turned out, she was purposely leaving it open as it had something with her next door neighbor (we live across the street) with whom she always has a complaint.

    As a thank you for Terry checking on her, she brought over a very large, very heavy, glass mug filled with spiced almonds. The almonds were delicious, but we had absolutely no use for the very large, very heavy mug. I returned it to her one day when she was out watering, with a jar of pomegranate jelly. and profuse thanks for her kindness.

    Perhaps I was looking the gift horse in the mouth, but I just could not see how I could get rid of that mug. The agency that picks up our discards will not accept breakables, and I couldn't see throwing it in the trash, so I returned it, hoping she can use it again.

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    1. Maybe she herself was trying to get rid of the mug by gifting it to you, LOL. If she seemed miffed when you returned it, that would be a clue.

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  10. Having one cake for everyone who has a birthday that month seems a lot easier.

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    1. One would think so, but I guess the organizers want to work harder rather than smarter.

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  11. Your gift horse description reminded me of another old adage: if wishes were horses, beggars would ride!

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    1. I recall hearing that old adage back in the day, LOL.

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