Triggered

It would appear that our former resident Red Light has gone all Baby Reindeer.

Last Red Light (RL) made it to the blog was back in February, when she was having her third public meltdown on facebook …… her passive aggressive way of manipulating people into feeling sorry for her. Like, "Hey look at what’s happening. I’m a victim here" because she had been told, as a non resident, she could not continue to attend our bingo sessions.

RL did not take it well, went publicly postal.

Her public meltdowns usually come in the form of cryptic memes but, this last time, she named names and made veiled threats, which got her into a lot of trouble.

So much trouble that the authorities got involved, after which she wisely removed those posts, learned a lesson, moved on with her life in her fancy new luxury community in Yucaipa, touted as "modern amenities and conveniences of metropolitan life, but with the privacy and tranquility of small-town living".

Seems like learning lessons, letting go of this community, getting on with her life in the Yucaipa community, like a good little Baby Reindeer, is something RL is not capable of.

Small-town living must be lonely and boring because, when I went to the website last night to post photos the bingo organizers had sent to be added to the Residents’ Facebook page, I saw RL had spiraled into yet another meltdown — her fourth, because she'd posted to our page ……

I can only assume what triggered RL is that while she’s sitting in her gilded cage, bored out of her mind, she checked our FB page, saw the photos of our Memorial Day BBQ, coffee and donuts, fun with crafts.

First of all, RL gets an F for sentence structure, not making a whole lot of sense in parts.

Second of all, no one here dislikes her … some were irritated by her continuing to attend our bingo sessions, long after she’d moved, not as a welcomed guest, but as still being bossy and in control; but no one here is putting any energy into disliking her, would have remained friends with her — met her for lunch, allowed her into their units for a visit, visited her at her place. She could have even attended the BBQ, just not play bingo or craft with us.

That is, she could have participated as a welcome guest in these other activities, had she not had that meltdown where she burned every single bridge.

You don’t get to burn down the bridge and then feel sorry for yourself because no one now comes to visit.

RL seems to think that because she did what she deems as "a lot for people", that residents owe her something.

This is a community. A lot of us devote our own time, energy, money into supporting our community.

Management didn’t throw that BBQ for us, us residents joined forces, threw the BBQ for ourselves; and no one contributed more than the Baker (the Bea that RL seems so fixated upon as a friend who she feels betrayed her), whose whole family contributed — provided the meats, sodas, brought over that huge awning to protect us from the sun.

Even the donuts for Craft Day were not from management, but from Talker, who walked across the street to the donut shop, paid for with her own money, to go with the coffee provided by Activity Director.

Those of us who are a little better off than others have always given to the community, and I can’t imagine any of us consider it as the quid per quo RL seems to think it is — I did this for you, so you now owe me a lifetime commitment.

I’m sorry for RL that she is bored, lonely, unhappy, but no one forced her to move. She moved because she didn’t like Manager and wasn’t comfortable with a maintenance issue going on in her unit, but you can’t have it both ways. Can’t move, then continue to return and act not as a guest, but as a resident who is an integral part of the community, still in control of how things are done.

If she wanted to maintain her status, rather than irritate those who’d taken over where she’d left off until they complained and got her banned from bingo, she could have moved back and regained her throne …… that is she had the option to move back until she blew it with that third public meltdown — burned bridges by naming names, attacked those friends she now think are putting time and energy into disliking her, made those veiled threats.

Inasmuch as she'd posted that comment to the Residents' page managed by me, I was able to remove it, which I did.

Hopefully, I took it down before very many saw it but, if not, the only one to look the fool is RL herself.